Long Distance Relationships......Your Thought About it..(Males or Females)Dont comment unless you read the whole thread!!!!!!

[K_L_B]

Okay....I have a female i am in a relationship with. I have known her since 2007, and we are currently dating. Everything between us is sweet..except that she lives Out of state. At first i was okay with it because the summer is near and we will be seeing each other soon....

But...I am still worrying about our future. We both will be going to schools in different states. We both want to be with each other bad. Its a few times where she even said she wanted us to live together and go to school in the same state. I was so amped when she said that. ...

But then, she said she would have to go to school at K-State for one semester (because she didnt wanna go against her mom's wishes and because she couldnt afford the other school she wanted to attend) ..after one semester at K-state she said she was gonna transfer to a school close to me. so we could be together ( me and her can both go to a school out of state together) At first i didnt like that idea, but then i thought about it and said to myself "one semester isnt that bad....i can do that"..Because i really care about her and i dont want to be selfish.I was willing to work with her on that one.

I assumed that we both were on the same page, but then the topic came up again....This time she said she would be going to K-state for 2 years and we could only see each other during breaks...when she told me that, i let her know i wasnt okay with that idea.....she then got mad at me and told me i need to be patience and have faith.....I tried to challege her again on the subject and she called me negative. She says am not willing to sacrifice for us....

Everyone i told my story to, didn,t think i was overreacting and said i was not being negative...(and it was mostly women, who normally i disagree with) I think it was important for me to get a females opinion on this situation because i know how the average guy would react.

We both are madly into one another...but being separated for two years is hard to deal with. Shit...just being away from her for the next 8 weeks is hard enough for me...Phone conversations and internet chatting can only do so much. Sometimes i find myself irritated, fustrated because i get tired of us being on the phone saying " i miss you, i cant wait to see you...ima do this and ima do that to you"....especially when i think about being separated for 2 years and only being able to see her briefly during breaks.

And by her being in college and living on campus makes it harder (WE ALL KNOW HOW COLLEGE LIFE IS AT A UNIVERSITY)...because she previously told me that "shes afraid that once she starts partying, she wont know how to control her self because she never was allowed to do much growing up".....which raises an eyebrow

she also told me that shes a flirt...

with all this sturred up in a pot, that makes me wonder. I hate to call it Insecurity , but thats what it is. I mean i like her a whole lot and i trust her. I believe she is a loyal woman, but im looking at all the potential problems distance can cause. Even the most faithful people can cheat or make a mistake when put in certain situations...and the statistics of long distance relationships when in college arent that good either...(when ever i say that she gets mad and calls me negative).

I just do not want to get a phone call with her crying telling me " I slept with this guy " or....."i believe we should see other people"...not saying shes the cheating type.

also, she told me that her mother is controlling and can be irrational at times. Despite that, she is very loyal to her mother. I respect that, but it seems like she is letting her mother control her. Its not like , she really wanted to go to k-state anyway. She wanted to go to a school that was in my city, that specialized in what she really wanted to major in. But...i believe her mom did something to mess up her chances wit the scholarship or something like that. Her mother also tried to change her major when she talked to the ppl at K-state.

It seems to me like , shes afraid to face her mother and go against the grain. I can totally understand that. But i feel like shes not being considerate of my feelings. its like her mother wants her to go to k-state , so shes gonna do it just to avoid conflict and to make everyone else happy.Except ME....and she got me by the balls, because when ever i challege her or express my dislike for her choice, she says "if i really care i would be willing to do what it takes" calls me "negative"...and she says keep "faith"

How am i being negative, im just expressing how i feel. I want my woman close by me. Its bad enough that i didnt want her to be away for a semester but i sucked up my pride and i was willing to accept that

its like she expects me to go along with everything...if i disagree with anything regarding our future, it causes a conflict. When i start talking about it, its like im not considerate of her feelings. When really i am considering...at times more considerate than her. I just want her to do what SHE wants and not do what her mom wants

and i cant tell her about it, because its a sensitive subject that will piss her off because she loves her mom and she will just call me Impatient and negative again.....

FUCK FAITH!!!

[Chicago Bull]

:zzz:

Stop being a bitch and move on, so much pussy out there and you're writing a thesis on one piece of cooch. Stop being a fag and get your mack on.

[GoodFeLLa07]

Quit being a fag, b.

[K_L_B]

:-(....smh. wheres the advice. im not a mack.

[testaaj123]

Ive been in a simular situation homie, and I can't give u 100% garenteed advicve but dog ive been in the same situation and i can tell you it didn't end well

I took the time to read your story so i could understand where you're coming from so take a lil time to hear mine, so u can see the out come. You might notice a few simularities

I met a girl on myspace, i was 15 she was 13, at the time i was a shy young kid with alot of love in my heart, and i was very how you say nieve. I lived near the LA area, she lived near the san francsisco area, a good 600 mile apart right. SO with this being said, I agreed that we would be bf gf with distance and we would wait for each other to b in the same area...

This then went on for 2 years, and in that time, we talked on the phone sooo much, we would constantly be on the phone with each other. I thought i knew her like no one else knew her, and in a way i suppose i did.

So around the age of 17, she cheated on me, (we had not met each other yet) I didn't want to let this relationship that i put so much effort into die over something so small, and she begged me to stay with her.... But something needed to change, so i decided fuck it, Im going i dont care

So i took a trip down there, and i had the best day of my life, it was wonderful in every way she was everything i had thought she would be.

I then proceeded to go out there 1 more time after that.. When i turned 18 that was it, I could no longer go on without seeing her on a regular basis, I then decided to move to the bay area.

I moved out there, i was still like a good 30 miles away but that was but a simple train ride away...

I went out there November 23rd, I Found out she cheated on my November 30

I was at a point where what the fuck could I do? I already full commited myself to this women, I moved out there, my ilfe was already established, I then took her back....


Things went rocky from that point my trust was completely gone for her i loved her but i couldn't trust her anymore and we know that at that point in a relationship that it really wont work out in the end.


Just Gonna go ahead and skip to the end of this story cuz its really making me some what depressed well i wouldnt say depressed but id say its putting a taste in my mouth that i'd rather not savor

We broke up some time in January, she began to date other people, i contimplated suicide, i hated everything, really had nothing to live for

around april, I went homeless, april 21st to be exact

I had 500 dollars in my pocket,

rented a hotel down the street from her for 2 days, i spent those days with her, i left the bay area april 24th

i haven't seen her since, Saddest chapter in my life thus far


Ive since then established myself once again, like i once had accomplished, and i've found love in another women, i also had my share of pussy in the mean time, i havent felt the happiness that i once had with my ex, but i can surly say im living better then her....




dog just let it go, or have her come to u, it wont work if u go to her, she will establish domintence in the relationship, something you can not grant a female



best advice you'll prolly get is from me, being that ive been in your exact situation :(

[K_L_B]

Ive been in a simular situation homie, and I can't give u 100% garenteed advicve but dog ive been in the same situation and i can tell you it didn't end well

I took the time to read your story so i could understand where you're coming from so take a lil time to hear mine, so u can see the out come. You might notice a few simularities

I met a girl on myspace, i was 15 she was 13, at the time i was a shy young kid with alot of love in my heart, and i was very how you say nieve. I lived near the LA area, she lived near the san francsisco area, a good 600 mile apart right. SO with this being said, I agreed that we would be bf gf with distance and we would wait for each other to b in the same area...

This then went on for 2 years, and in that time, we talked on the phone sooo much, we would constantly be on the phone with each other. I thought i knew her like no one else knew her, and in a way i suppose i did.

So around the age of 17, she cheated on me, (we had not met each other yet) I didn't want to let this relationship that i put so much effort into die over something so small, and she begged me to stay with her.... But something needed to change, so i decided fuck it, Im going i dont care

So i took a trip down there, and i had the best day of my life, it was wonderful in every way she was everything i had thought she would be.

I then proceeded to go out there 1 more time after that.. When i turned 18 that was it, I could no longer go on without seeing her on a regular basis, I then decided to move to the bay area.

I moved out there, i was still like a good 30 miles away but that was but a simple train ride away...

I went out there November 23rd, I Found out she cheated on my November 30

I was at a point where what the fuck could I do? I already full commited myself to this women, I moved out there, my ilfe was already established, I then took her back....


Things went rocky from that point my trust was completely gone for her i loved her but i couldn't trust her anymore and we know that at that point in a relationship that it really wont work out in the end.


Just Gonna go ahead and skip to the end of this story cuz its really making me some what depressed well i wouldnt say depressed but id say its putting a taste in my mouth that i'd rather not savor

We broke up some time in January, she began to date other people, i contimplated suicide, i hated everything, really had nothing to live for

around april, I went homeless, april 21st to be exact

I had 500 dollars in my pocket,

rented a hotel down the street from her for 2 days, i spent those days with her, i left the bay area april 24th

i haven't seen her since, Saddest chapter in my life thus far


Ive since then established myself once again, like i once had accomplished, and i've found love in another women, i also had my share of pussy in the mean time, i havent felt the happiness that i once had with my ex, but i can surly say im living better then her....




dog just let it go, or have her come to u, it wont work if u go to her, she will establish domintence in the relationship, something you can not grant a female



best advice you'll prolly get is from me, being that ive been in your exact situation :(

our story is similar.....but

last night we talked. I told her i was not willing to wait. Waiting Isnt an option!!! and i stook to it. At first she got mad and tried to get all emotional with me.....

But then once i brought up us not being able to see each other on valentines day and our birthdays, that opened her eyes...then she started to looking at schools online that's in my city....

I just had to man up...and as of now, our plan is after next semester shes comming to ME. Why? Because im already somewhat established with a place to live whereas she is not. She dont have nothing to loose. If i move and come to her , i have to leave my apt behind.

so yeah,maybe you should of man-ed up and made her come to you. Because if you let a female dictate everything, the respect for you as a man fades. I learned to speak my mind and be firm with her and even if they get emotional , they will still like you.

Oh yeah, and if i got cheated on while in a long distance relationship, i wouldnt have taken her back. I have a zero tolerance for cheaters.

[testaaj123]

yea I was young, I didn't know better at the time

But you did the right thing, make the bitch come to u and u good money

[REALTALK87]

get cold

take everything

[ndeavecpt]

u get out wha u put in.. if wha yall got is real then she should value ur opinion whether she likes it or not thats a part of growin together

[West Coast_Finest]

*plays violin for your bitch asses*

:smh: at these stories... wasted my time coming in here


MOVE ON ITS NOT WORTH IT

[Artisticfied]

:smh: nobody's reading that, even your thread title was too long.

Long distance is the critical word, you either ACCEPT OR DECLINE, not that hard....

[CookCityPenn]

:zzz:

Stop being a bitch and move on, so much pussy out there and you're writing a thesis on one piece of cooch. Stop being a fag and get your mack on.

.........

[sanchez]

yo if she was a few hours away that counld wrk...

if states seperatin yall doe...u kno u gonn be smashin
other chicks anyway bro just play it smooth if u
she ur bottom bitch...keep it funky...

[Barrelz]

Speaking from experience, MOVE ON!!!!

If there is a girl like her in a different state as you, theres one like her right in your city, you just gotta keep looking and have your mindset high. It feels good to have someone love you, but nothing compares to that PHYSICAL INTERACTION ya digg?

[Artisticfied]

*plays violin for your bitch asses*

:smh: at these stories... wasted my time coming in here


MOVE ON ITS NOT WORTH IT


:laugh: