Was I out of Line

[NateSelvaggio]

Ok so heres the deal...

I was laying in bed with my woman about 15 minutes ago and I was putting in work and getting her all ready to go and something that has been bothering just kinda came out. I said something like how come you never try to arrouse me. I was like I do all the work every time and you just lay there and do nothing... you dont try to excite me.. I didnt mean to come off as a dick but I kinda did I guess cuz she just put her clothes back on. Now this is my girlfriend of 3 years and I really care about her but she seems like she never wants to do work to get me excited she just expects me to do it all while she just lies on her back...

So here the ?
1) Was it wrong to put it that way and how could I have put it better.
2)Do any of your girls just lay there and do nothing to excite you
3)And am I wrong for expecting more

Like I dont want to hurt her feelings but its just like same shit all the time she lies there while I dry hump her and kiss all up on her until she starts giving me the signs then I take off her clothes then take off mine and we pretty much do the same position every time her on her back and me on top. Its not like its the same position every time but its like only if I ask but she prefers me on top cuz she says I go into deep and it hurts any other way



So im confused and I need help I dunno what to do I just want her to do some stuff to get me going to to show that she is as into it as me like anything


Any help will be greatly appreciated you prop i prop back

[NateSelvaggio]

:bump:

[cbacarl11]

You shouldn't have said it in mid foreplay lol.

But yes, you should have told her.
Talk it out. Tell her how you feel. Ask her how she feels about it and if it would be out of her comfort zone to try and please you.

[NateSelvaggio]

propped back

[bayareareppin89]

shouldn't have said it like that when u guys were bout ta get down but when she's in a good mood n calm jus talk 2 her bout it n tell her how ya feel, yadadamean?

[Young_illz]

yea, i shoulda probably not said it at the point. talk about it when its a good calm time, and let her know how u feel...

the worst thing to do is not communicate wit yo gurl, especially if she is someone serious in yo life.

[Rizzo-D-Don]

maybe the wrong time to mention it but she has to know that u cant be doing alll the work all the time

my girl be jus layin there too, it gets a bit annoying, actually real annoygin, im the one puttin in mad work while she puts a pillow on her face, great

[ҢυŜŤļξѓŝρѓÃyëѓ]

just ly there and wait for her to do somthing

[LRM]

maybe she's not attracted to you anymore. keep your dick in your pants for a week and let her steam in her own juices. either she learns to initiate or you go find someone else. or either its a foreplay thing and her clit hasnt been aroused in years.

[BMWE31850CSI]

bitches around the world have this same problem, and there is one universal solution...
cut that bitch off for a while and eventually she'll be begging for the dick. but really cut her off, dont do ANYTHING sexual..

[supafli690]

1. Yeah it was bad wording on your part, you could have waited for a better time to bring it up. The best time is when you two are chillin, maybe have a drink or two.

2. My girl is freaky...a lil bit. She doesn't hesitate to switch positions on me. She actually prefers to break me off, I let her do her thang and its really good, but I play the role like its the best sex I ever had so we both come out on top at the end. This other girl I know is a fucking MONSTER in bed. No bullshit she is pornstar status with hers.

3. No you ain't wrong for wanting more cuz there are girls out there that are real freaks in bed.

[word_smith]

it sounds like your girl isn't really the sexual type. there are girls out there that don't like to give blow jobs because they think it's nasty. girls are emotional and want to be reassured about uncertain things so just talk to your girl and tell her what turns you on. try to negotiate with her about the things you want her to do to you and explain how it'll benefit the relationship but don't force her to do something she doesn't want to or else it'll make the situation a lot worse. good luck dude.

[NateSelvaggio]

I did cut her off I broke up with her and she came back telling me that she wanted to get back together to have sex so bad and how important I am but its bs cuz she aint that experienced I dont even know what the hell to do cuz I always be the one to do everything im her first shes like my 11th lol

[NateSelvaggio]

it sounds like your girl isn't really the sexual type. there are girls out there that don't like to give blow jobs because they think it's nasty. girls are emotional and want to be reassured about uncertain things so just talk to your girl and tell her what turns you on. try to negotiate with her about the things you want her to do to you and explain how it'll benefit the relationship but don't force her to do something she doesn't want to or else it'll make the situation a lot worse. good luck dude.

my nigga words of wisdom thats how she is she is sexual because she does get really turned on by me and I can make that bitch moan so loud every body in my dorm can hear her ass she just isnt that sexual of a girl the thing is I dont know what exactly turns her on I just want her to try to do things doesnt really particularly matter what and the whole head thing like I can get her to do it even though she dont like it but she aint good at it

[ßųşŧą Ņůţ]

bitches around the world have this same problem, and there is one universal solution...
cut that bitch off for a while and eventually she'll be begging for the dick. but really cut her off, dont do ANYTHING sexual..

:rockstar:

take control of the situation.

[NateSelvaggio]

workin on it

[mustyrabbit]

your timing was a tad off sir... talkin to ppl about sexual stuff sometimes can be thr trickiest thing in a relationship cuz u dont wanna bruise egos, but your situation should be easy to fix, its not like your tryna tell her that her head game is weak. shouldnt have said it in mid session... but tell her sometimes you just want her to grab your dick or just kick it off. some females dont know fellas like that kidna stuff. 3 years in, trust me she will fix it you were not out of line or anything but it wasnt the best time to throw it out. i generally tell females that anytime we are solo is a good time to grab on my shit or just start messin around. and then whenever they want it they go for it.

some girls you meet will always be dead fish and some will get wet and excited just layin in bed next to thinkin about the pipe

[NateSelvaggio]

man I think I got it worked out thanks for the help now all I gotta do is find out how to get rid of that gag reflex so she can put in work

[tokenxblackxguy]

"I told my girl when you f**k me better f**k me good
Cause if another girl could she gon f**k me good"

you should prolly tell her the same...

[ABChick01]

Let her borrow your pornos and tell her to study them and learn. When she's done with that, then ya'll can get together again.

Ok, just kidding...lol, but you should really just sit down and really talk to her about how you feel. In better wording of course though. And if she doesn't get the point...try a temporary strike. See if she'll take initiative. If not, maybe she's not the one for you. I'm not trying to say it's all about sex, but I think that's a very important connection to have in the long run.

[g_skwee]

bitches around the world have this same problem, and there is one universal solution...
cut that bitch off for a while and eventually she'll be begging for the dick. but really cut her off, dont do ANYTHING sexual..

he right i had 2 to 3 bitches like that who would jus ly there after a while i got tired of the shit so i jus quit givin em the dik and started fuckin sumbody else i can remember one of the bitches called one day and said im comin over she came in wit no underwear on took me to my room and started suckin the shit out of my dick. stall her out and one of two things gone happen she gone find sumbody who dont mind jus fuckin her on her back(which wont happ[en cuz everybody get tired of that) or she gone take yo dik and i mean take it some freaky shit will come out you never thought she'd do

[Serious]

dawg my chick do the same thing so i had to reply to this one but first i'ma give you my logic before.

I felt like my girl just thought that since she look good, that thats enough to get me hard ya feel me. Don't get me wrong, a short red bone, with long hair and a fat ass is my dream girl and I got her, but it be times when I dont be thinking bout pussy like when I'm studying or something and she'll kiss on my neck to let me know she want it but i aint really in the mood and we'll get to the bed and i'll get my clothes off and get her wet but she just lay there on her back in the dark. in my mind im like i cant see you for one, and for two WHAT HAPPENED TO ALL THAT LICKING AND SUCKIN YOU WAS DOING ON ME DOWNSTAIRS?!?!?! lol. hell we be fuckin and she just sit there, she dont rock back into the dick she dont try and match the motion, nothing. I AINT COMPLAINING OR NOTHING, but if you dont tell em they dont know. SO I TOLD MY GUL, IN THE MIDDLE OF FUCKIN, SHE GOTTA FUCK BACK!!! all the pumpin and shit the man do can wear on the stomach and when a nigga tired he nut faster, its a proven fact.

as far as her arousing me, that shit came up kinda hostile between me and her cuz we just left grocery store n was in the car and she was like she want it there. so i strip down, and she sit there wit her clothes on (WTF). then after making me wait like 5 minutes to take off her tight ass jeans, she just lay back and Im like when i was on hard you was dressed and playin around, now you undressed and im soft and you dont wanna get it up.

i told babe that its her job to get me up just like its my job to get her wet. i told her if i gotta do everything then im fuckin for self, meaning when i nut i nut so she better make it fast. she sucked her teeth and got dressed and drove back to the spot mad as a bitch but she got the picture. sex is supposed to be mutual ya know. so if ya gul aint doin her part let her know, she'll be mad then, but she'll get the pic and see that you trying make it work for the long run instead of running off with another chick ya know.

its kind of a long response but like i said this shit happened to me almost exactly how it did to you and pissed me off but its all good now.

[dakingpin714]

the timing was off but yea she needs to know. sometmes my legs are sore as fuck and my back and my wife wants to have sex and i tell her im sore and shes liek just a quickie so i have to break it down that i do all the work and im alrdy sore as fuck and i just wanna knock out alrdy

[Mr. Cartoon]

Fuck all that nigga. The girl probably just not a nympho and not into that. Check this alright. Kiss her and lick on her neck lay her down and start fingering her she should be digging that shit. When she get all wet n shit start smashin and let her be on top let her do the work. Let her be in control and when you fuck her, fuck her good make her miss that shit. If that don't work, shit...try spankwire and fuck yourself homie hahaha