So I met this new girl ...

[a-bLock23]

Im at it again in the Lover's Lounge.
So right now in my life, I'm at the "playin' the field" mode where I am headin' out meeting new girls and moving on with my life from the break up I had several months ago.
This shit is a good move for me to move on w/ my life and move on to new things and new girls.
Been learning new things on my own along the way, plus advice from guys around the board to help me.
Plus I think it's about time for me to get up like a Champ and keep on going.

So just recently I met this chick, few years younger than me, three to be exact. She's beautiful as hell and what I find weird is her complexion reminds me somewhat of my ex, asian, bright smile, smooth complexion and similar like features. I ain't saying I am going for her cause she looks like my ex but I had to point that out.
It seems like we in the process of the beggining to become friends.
To be honest, I added her on facebook. Had the same friends with me and shit so I had to get at her. First time doin' that kinda shit since Junior High. So basically most of this is random but we had some connections to each other.
Another cool thing is, she goes to my old school which I graduated from last year.

So my question is, should I stick to what I am doin' and start of to becoming friends w/ her and work my way up. Despite me not knowing alot about her, seems like she has that "potential".
Yeah I know it doesn't hurt to become friends w/ her but like how do I communicate more w/ her and get her to be more interested in what I have to say and etc.
If things don't go out the way it looks, I ain't afraid to move on, like I said I'm playing the field.

I don't got her digits yet but we IM/Facebook here and there.
But if signs point to things going cool, eventually I wanna get her number so I can call her up to chill, etc

Not to sound cocky but I think I have somewhat of an advantage of being an older, dominent male.

From past post I've made, the comments ya'll posted up had a positive impact in my life that made me a better man in life.

So if ya'll can pull through again and help a kid out, appreciate it.

Leave some feedback and i'll get at you.

[Kamy]

huh??

[J-Crew]

this is a question none of the people on this site can answer for you...I mean it doesn't make a lot of sense why you would come on here and ask this...you gonna have to make your own decisions sooner or later

[LRM]

seeing where you are at and what you've learnt in the past, id say go for it and ask her straight out - dont worry if the both of you don't know each other just yet, you can always feel yourselves around it and fill in the gaps later - the reason id say go for it is because 1) you dont need to waste no time trying to be her friend if you're interested in her and 2) you would know straight away whether she is interested in you or not. the biggest thing you have going for you right now is your decisiveness (of lack of) and not meddling in no bullshit so if you are really serious then waste no time in trying to be her friend, go to second base son. one of the common mistakes most guys do is act like a friend to a girl they are interested in. so what inevitably happens is you become that friend. but your not that guy that is getting any closer to her, physically or emotionally. some other guy has already jumped the gun, took your spot and has already shown her interest from day 1. and all the while you continue to sit plotting to yourself when you was going to do it.

set a day, a time, one with no hassle, no commitments, where no one can interrupt you where both you and her can just chill and talk, smile whatever, the sooner you find chemistry the better.

[[T]ha [S]uperman]

umm why do you think she likes you? you're kinda planning a bit too far forwards.. next thing you'll be arranging your marriage :laugh:

first of all find out if she actually likes you.

[grandlarceny06]

ill tell you what brotha dont dwell too much on her, dude just chill talk to other girls, put the game and time in just dont settle for her you sound like a young dude anyway

[BiggBawlzMcGee]

I don't understand the hesitation, I mean if she's the one, she's the one, if she's not, she's not. Just chill with her, talk and have some fun, and if something pops off, go for it. You talkin' like you want to stop distributing your time to other chicks and start invested it in all in this one, which ain't a good idea. You shouldn't bet all your chips on 1 if you're not sure that's the winner. If your not afraid to move on after it don't workout (if it don't workout), then go for it, but you still need to put some work in with some other chicks.

[a-bLock23]

huh??

yeah kinda confusin w/ all that shit i wrote

this is a question none of the people on this site can answer for you...I mean it doesn't make a lot of sense why you would come on here and ask this...you gonna have to make your own decisions sooner or later

to break it down, im jus tryna say im i doin the right things in starting off tryna become friends rather than rushing it.

seeing where you are at and what you've learnt in the past, id say go for it and ask her straight out - dont worry if the both of you don't know each other just yet, you can always feel yourselves around it and fill in the gaps later - the reason id say go for it is because 1) you dont need to waste no time trying to be her friend if you're interested in her and 2) you would know straight away whether she is interested in you or not. the biggest thing you have going for you right now is your decisiveness (of lack of) and not meddling in no bullshit so if you are really serious then waste no time in trying to be her friend, go to second base son. one of the common mistakes most guys do is act like a friend to a girl they are interested in. so what inevitably happens is you become that friend. but your not that guy that is getting any closer to her, physically or emotionally. some other guy has already jumped the gun, took your spot and has already shown her interest from day 1. and all the while you continue to sit plotting to yourself when you was going to do it.

set a day, a time, one with no hassle, no commitments, where no one can interrupt you where both you and her can just chill and talk, smile whatever, the sooner you find chemistry the better.

u did it again lrm
always kno the right shit to say in situation and w/ all of them comin with good results and making me into a better person.
yeah i dont kno why im pullin pussy and being shy in front of this monitor.
crazy thing is i saw her today while i was driving, didnt get the chance to turn back
im tryna time this right but not take too long you kno what im sayin
i'll keep ya updated and would like ya input again with all this happenin.
props bro, appreciate it

ha [S]uperman;16600379']umm why do you think she likes you? you're kinda planning a bit too far forwards.. next thing you'll be arranging your marriage :laugh:

first of all find out if she actually likes you.

easy
i didnt point out any of that shit, basically im just tryna get at this girl without makin me sound like this creeper. i ain't plannin things too far, just playing the field like i said and see if im doing the right things. hey that would be a bonus if she did without even knowing me that well. aha

ill tell you what brotha dont dwell too much on her, dude just chill talk to other girls, put the game and time in just dont settle for her you sound like a young dude anyway

yeah im a young gun, 19
like i said im playin the field but this one girl stands out outta all of them for some reason i cant seem to figure out yet, why i wanna get to know her and w.e
appreciate the comment

[a-bLock23]

I don't understand the hesitation, I mean if she's the one, she's the one, if she's not, she's not. Just chill with her, talk and have some fun, and if something pops off, go for it. You talkin' like you want to stop distributing your time to other chicks and start invested it in all in this one, which ain't a good idea. You shouldn't bet all your chips on 1 if you're not sure that's the winner. If your not afraid to move on after it don't workout (if it don't workout), then go for it, but you still need to put some work in with some other chicks.

u basically said it all right there bro,
im basically riskin all the chips into one
like i said above, she stands out from all the others ones i met
ya i go clubbin and all that shit but none come to mind.
so basically i got enough input from everyone here just to go for it, if i strike out, i srtike out u know. if i do, we got ourselves a game.
appreciate it the comment.

[a-bLock23]

so to keep some ya'll updated
what i got so far was a "maybe =p"
that's an answer I can accept

ask her today but she had an exam comin up on fri. morning and I respect that you know.
seems like a tough one to crack but i'm still hangin' in there and see what's the deal with her you know.

it's like carl thomas all over again.
cot damnnnn.. ahaha

" the carl thomas reference"
http://youtube.com/watch?v=6038Axc8-PM

[GoodFeLLa07]

:laugh: what a piece of crap thread....




"yo, so i met this new chick...

added her on facebook...

Should I continue talking to her or what?

...Maybe I should've added a poll for this"





Totally unnecessary...

[TP2000]

Aight basically keep playing the field but give her some time so that it shows interest and don;t be afriad to relate to yourself when she speaks ab out something she wants to learn or needs to know. Be helpful but not overly so cause you don;t want to be dropped int he older brother like section lol. But since you want to play the field keep the door to the field wide open so you can see out the lock room.

[WCG]

well the BEST thing to do is to let her know your INTERESTED by FLIRTING but not TELLING HER directly... also play hard to get but dont be a little fag about it.. eventually the girl is just gonna get pissed and move on to someone else..


Also, you seem to be taking too much time on her and the longer you wait to get her number and advance on the harder it is to get her attraction.. Girls want progress from a guy... not to sit in the same boring spot all the time... ya feel me?? So if you have an opportunity take it... cuz that might be your last..

[ddd_unit]

i was gonna say exactly what WCG just said :p..

dont be too nice to her and dont take too long...u dont wanna end up in the friend zone...... take risks..play it koooo...make her laugh.. and dont try to hard.

[jadamuah2k2]

first and foremost u gotta find out if shes feeling you like that...dont go to the friend zone brotha because you will never go back...


forget who it was but some dude posted a thread here in the section and gave good advice