What does she want from my life??

[Heat Makerz]

Ok long story PLEASE dont get lost. Met this chick from work she got hired during the summer and I liked her as a friend only a friend nothing more I mean shes pretty and all but i never saw her that way, I would go to lunch, break, take the train home wit her etc. One problem with her is shes madd immature but in a cute way, she only had one boyfriend in her life and that only lasted a year. We would have the best convos even better convos that i had with my girl. When me and my girl were going thru shit i would tell her my problems and she'd listen and tell me to break up with her and shit. Everyone at work thinks we're going out or fucking and shit but thats not the case, now heres where i get confused bcuz she told a few people at work that she likes me and shit but shes waiting for me to ask her out. So now in the beggining of December me and my girl officially break up and now she tells me finally its about time blah blah blah.... so now im hanging out with her more and having a good time not even caring about my ex and not even picking up when my ex calls bcuz im having a way better time i dont wanna hear her cry over the phone. So now i start to fall for this chick all of a sudden, i finally ask her out and tell her i want to be more than friends a few days before christmas and BANG she shoots me down, saying how shes been seeing someone else and how she never told me and im like WTF how can u do this and not tell me, and shes like she didnt want me to see her different. we have this long talk and shit and shes like we better stay friends and im like yeah yeah of course. so now everytime i see her at work i dont talk to her and i just ignore her, or change the subject and act like im busy and shit, and she wants to know why and whats wrong. so when she asks does it have anything with me asking her out but i keep denying it. so im into dodging her for the whole month of january. So now shes like she cant take it and cant believe how i hurt her by being an ass and not talking to her and shit, how she misses chillin wit me and having good times. I dont even return her calls or texts and when she asks why i just say i was busy or my phone is messed up whatever excuse i can give her i do. So now friday im out with my boys and she calls me and leaves a msg saying how i need to call her back that she has to tell me something and its very important. so im like wtf i rush home call her back within an hour and im like whats up whats so important??? shes like nah that she wanted to tell me that moment and blah blah blah we argue, then make up and then ended the convo with her saying that she'll tell me at work, guess what?? this bitch doesnt tell me shit at work im like forget it dont talk to me i have nothing to say. So my question is what does she want i told her things cant be the same like they were before i asked her out and shes not seeing that.

[T®££§420]

You can't expect people to put shit on hold and wait up for you to break up in a relationship.Yeah it was unexpected cause she didn't tell you,but can you really be this mad?Most likely your both young and this guy will be out the door in a couple of months and your ass will be next in line.Your feelings for her got you acting towards her likes shes man.Tell her you cared for her,Thats why you got crushed,you moved on,things are cool.
your man?your still living?pick up your shit and keep moving.
If you just realize shes got a life to and accept that shit and get that pissed off anger out of your head and got some lunch with her again,I'm sure you'd guys have a good time.

[musiqsoul86]

fuck this bitch

[LRM]

Dude, the reality is that you were aware of the signs (she’s rude, disrespectful, immature/childish, pussy fucker) from the outset yet instead you chose to dabble with fire and you got burned. She doesn’t want anything from you, sexually that is, because if she did it would have happened- what she wants is male attention and she knows she can get it from you in a whim to the point where you become easily distracted with work and with your own relationship, that you fucked around too much - she knows she can treat you like shit and get away with it because you let it happen and are too consumed to even see the potential dangers.

You are nothing more than a drama fix for her, she baked and coaxed you with lies, relationship advice and statements to get you to question yourself and your relationship. and the stupid thing is you believed her. stop complicating life with this nonsense, this one is not worth the time or effort no more. She’s treating you like garbage and you keep going back for more beatings. Im lost as to why you wasted a second with her, knowing all you did and the things you two were up to. If I was your work mate, I would have kicked your head in ages ago. There’s nada wrong with being too nice, but being a doormat and not standing up for yourself isn’t.

to be rushing home like a little puppy dog to answer her phone call within the hour is a little desperate and pathetic. You spend all your time with this chick and you wonder where’s all the time gone and why your relationships suffered the fate it has. Wake up man. It's better to be perceived as someone who is busy, who does things, who has an interesting and exciting life, then to constantly play games like this with people who’s head is out of whack.
You already said you realize your mistakes, now take control of the situation. You should have walked away from her a long time ago. take all the time and energy you'd waste thinking about her and get your ass in the gym. at least then the time and energy you are spending goes directly towards making you a better person, not playing the field with some dumb broad.

Never shit where you eat my friend. Work is not the place for you to be field testing your game. There are plenty of hotties outside your job for that. Chalk this up as experience, get over it and move on.

[REALTALK87]

be cool

you cant let females know u catching feeling if she not your chick

once shes your girl, you can open it up some.. but u avoiding her was

obviously because shut u down. but if you had been cool.. keep taken her out

having fun you woulda felt alot better and probably she would want u cuz u was

a coo dude about the situation

Girls have choices, they arent on the shelf for you

[Heat Makerz]

proped all of u.

Im at the point where I am over this chick but the shit is where i messes up is falling for a chick at my work place bcuz now im gonna see her everyday. And everyday no matter how hard i try to avoid her she keeps trying to talk to me and trying to make it work again, but i dont wanna i just cant. My question is do u guys think im wrong for acting like this towards her or am I right???

BTW i turn 22 at the end of this month and she just turned 20. So yea u can say we're young and it doesnt help that shes the immature type like i stated in my first post.

[mustyrabbit]

stop bn shady cuz she has a dude... she was cool wit u wen u had a chick so u cant trip she got a dude.. and even more-so... the shit wit him and her is probly ganna fold so if u want her be there when it does. you dont have to wait for her or nothin but stay cool so if u dont have anything goin or she is better than whatever u do have goin u can get her.