need help wit my girl (story kinda long)

[Dwain50]

ok me and my ole lady we been together for about a year and a half and everything has been cool. She got pregnant and we had planned to move in together and shit when the baby was born. Unfortunately my son only lived for10 days and passed away and so a couple of things changed. at first i was just gonna give up basketball a while and just work full time jus to take care and be there for my son but now since he is gone i dont wanna move in with her and she is mad. At first she was cool because she thought it wasnt a good idea because i would only be in the us 2 -3 months at a time. every thing was cool then this happened in december. Now all of a sudden she asks me out the blue and says that we should take a break from our relationship. I was like y and she said ask me would i sacrifice everything jus to be with her and i told her i dunno it depends on the timing like if she wanted me to do it now i told her no but maybe in the future yea and then she asked me y dont i wanna move in and marry her. i told her because she needs to finish school and find a job and im still tryin to play ball im not tryin to get married because im not in a stable point in life and i cannot provide for me and her. then she starts saying that i am selfish because i wanna do my own thing and dont care for her..........then she ask me if i still wanted to be with her or break up i told her i want to work it out she said ok but then she texted me sayin she doesnt know what she wants to do so i dont know what to do

what do ya think?

[PaulMatthew06]

u play pro ball for the euro leage or somethin??

[Dwain50]

i jus got done playin in the aba in canada

[LRM]

damn im sorry for your loss. miscarriages and complications after birth are particularly unfornate after your on a high then get hit with the unexpected and you spend the rest of your days questioning why it happened. this unfornate circumstance didnt happen for a reason. i believe everything happens for a reason, bad or good.

if both of you are young and not ready for commitment and circumstances panned out the way it did, maybe its a sign that both of you are not ready for the biggest responsibility you will ever have. bringing a kid into this world and raising it with the full potential is no easy task without the two of you.

you said yourself that were willing to drop your basketball to be with and support her and this kid, whats the difference now that he's not with you? you might want to cut ur loss, but she is killing inside internally having to bear the child for 9 months and so and to finally discover that he wont be with her. this is the time when she needs you most, right now, she is hurting.

eventually when something like this happens again, be a man and take responsibility for the risk and choices you took and made. it aint all her fault.

[W1ld Bill]

i rarely say this but I think you were wrong for flaking on her as far as moving in when you lost your son (my condolences by the way) for two main reasons...

1) You now give her the impression that you weren't down for her and that moving in with her was only because ya'll were having a child together. She straight up asked if you would give up everything for her and you said no. That's not comforting to a woman or anybody else for that matter considering ya'll were on the verge of establishing a family together.

2) Point 1 aside, Ya'll unfortunately lost the only thing (although he will be around in spirit) that will forever link the two of you together...A child. To lose a child and to do so so soon is devastating, as you being a former father are aware of. With that said, for you to renege on your proposal to move in shows abandonment in a time where above all else she's probably gonna need you more than ever.

I'm not saying you should(ve) move(d) in with her for the simple fact that you lost a child but the fact that with the child now out of the picture and you don't wanna move in with her, it speaks volumes about your initial and actual intentions.

[Dwain50]

propped both of yalll

[$YoungandBallin$]

Follow your dream yo, If ya girl is really down for you, she'll be there, Tell her this is what i really wanna do, This is my chance to be somebody ya know, she get mad fuck her yo, honestly. You give up playin basketball then da bitch leave you, now you stuck on a fucked up job make scribbles, watchin muafukas on tv playin basketball, A bitch is never guaranteed, never fuck yo money up for a female, even if you have a kid with her, You can still take responsiblity followin ur dream undastand, she gonna have 2 roll wit it, ask her what she want a hyndai or lexus, a trailor or a house simple bitch u fill me :)

[CashMoney52]

real talk he said it just right^^propz..cuz if yall break up and u gave up everything for her u gon b feelin kinda shitty in da end...jsut do wats best for you.

[GoodFeLLa07]

damn...

[Dwain50]

Follow your dream yo, If ya girl is really down for you, she'll be there, Tell her this is what i really wanna do, This is my chance to be somebody ya know, she get mad fuck her yo, honestly. You give up playin basketball then da bitch leave you, now you stuck on a fucked up job make scribbles, watchin muafukas on tv playin basketball, A bitch is never guaranteed, never fuck yo money up for a female, even if you have a kid with her, You can still take responsiblity followin ur dream undastand, she gonna have 2 roll wit it, ask her what she want a hyndai or lexus, a trailor or a house simple bitch u fill me :)

yea im feelin u on that. Thats what i been tryin to tell her she startin to understand i wasnt feelin that movin in idea. i feel things happen in life for a reason and it dont make sense to move in together and just sit there and be depressed ya know the hoopin thing workin outto well rite na