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[REALTALK87]

So i be seein yall in the mall, some of yall be standin around like your waiting for a bus, some of yall are in packs like 5 deep, and then some of yall are power walking through with bags in hand, cell phone to ya ear, swag rite body tight.. ya kno like you got a purpose and a plan.. Which leads me to my point.. Like im mad attracted to that.. But some times i cant think of an angle to approach on. I think about being like "hey, how u doin.. u look real focused" and occupany it wit a laugh an a smile to kinda break the ice


Advice, and ill prop

[LRM]

ok since there arent many ladies nowadays around imma take a shot at this one.

your thinking too much and watching too much. you need to think of yourselves as the prize. you're not believing in yourself. you cannot expect to go anywhere and expect to start getting women to fall in love with you. only show interest and pay attention to those that show interest to you. stop putting women on a pedestal.

your approach can be about anything, even full of sexual innuendo but gauge her personality first before attempting this one. if she's in a hurry it's best not to approach her or she maul your head off. what you should be talking about should be determined by the moment and what both of you are experiencing. what you should be doing is leaving a mark on that woman.

if you're like trying to attract a woman, say who is a corporate high-flyer and is constantly talking about her job, she may not be the type of girl you're looking for in an intimate sense. women like these can be picky because they need someone on their level. of course there are exceptions.

ur right smart girls who make a hell alot of money are a turn on. but i cant see myself with someone who dedicates a large majority of time to their job. dont get me wrong i respect women of progress and what they have accomplish but the chances of a long term relationship will fade if they are constantly over-doing it.

[REALTALK87]

word son

i feel what ur sayin

but i have no shortage in self-esteem, but i agree that i can at times over analyze a female instead of just engaging them as just targets
and i agree with not putting just any women on a pedestal,
problem is.. MY women is going right on the mantel.


So, i dont really role with that completely

[LRM]

just do your thing and that will naturally gravitate women towards you who enjoy you for who you are. i used to think getting women was competition - between my and my boys- who could get the most digits in the night we'd go out or the week we was in. you know the saying dont hate the player hate the game. its a game we all in. we are all facing the same struggle.

things is you qualify your women from the get go without really making up your mind. appearances are always deceiving. on the real, you could be out and find someone who is down for what and whot you are about but instead you choose stay in a relationship waiting on her to decide if you're the one.

bring her down from that mantel (this positioning is what is causing the frustration) and just chat to her like she's just another everyday girl you would talk to. its is probable that she is being hit on a daily basis 10 times or more, from her co-workers, to the footballers all the way down to the dude on the street that always catches the same bus as she does who she thinks is creepy. the way you prejudge her and place her on that mantel, she does the same thing. but get them to qualify that first. if it clicks, its clicks. if it doesnt work out it aint that of a big deal really.

If she's interested, she will seek you out and give you the signals. She will make it a point to be around you, she will make sure that you notice she has noticed you, and that she wants you to do something about it. And if her interest level is high enough, she'll make it easy for you to pick up on those signals to the point where asking her out or whatever it is you're going to do, is the natural next step to take.

Let the others make fools of themselves and try to earn the girl's attraction. The girl is attracted basically at the get-go. Just like when you see a girl, you size her up in an instant on if you'd want to be with her. They do the same thing. If they like you, all you have to do is maintain their interest level, but not in a hedonistic way. establish rapport, get to know her.

[CARAM3L]

I'm not to sure on what you can SAY, but you just have to be smooth about it. Usually if I'm alone in a mall, and I'm walking fast with phone to ear...that usually means I really do not want anyone trying to talk to me, because usually dudes usually end up same ol same ol (malls aren't a good place I usually like to meet people), but you just have to either have to have your stuff together and it needs to show, show your swag, try to make it convincing that your just not "anotha nigga." attraction is usually what i fall for first...n if its not that then his game has to be on point to get him a shot. but hmmm as far as approach...i'm not sure what to tell you. be creative about it, and use your surroundings to your advantage to lead in to your true purpose(you wanting to talk to her) don't be blunt about it so quickly..lol

ehh..I tried!

[REALTALK87]

thanks for the insight mami

props

[REALTALK87]

LRM u my nigga

[SeanJohnPlaya]

just do your thing and that will naturally gravitate women towards you who enjoy you for who you are. i used to think getting women was competition - between my and my boys- who could get the most digits in the night we'd go out or the week we was in. you know the saying dont hate the player hate the game. its a game we all in. we are all facing the same struggle.

things is you qualify your women from the get go without really making up your mind. appearances are always deceiving. on the real, you could be out and find someone who is down for what and whot you are about but instead you choose stay in a relationship waiting on her to decide if you're the one.

bring her down from that mantel (this positioning is what is causing the frustration) and just chat to her like she's just another everyday girl you would talk to. its is probable that she is being hit on a daily basis 10 times or more, from her co-workers, to the footballers all the way down to the dude on the street that always catches the same bus as she does who she thinks is creepy. the way you prejudge her and place her on that mantel, she does the same thing. but get them to qualify that first. if it clicks, its clicks. if it doesnt work out it aint that of a big deal really.

If she's interested, she will seek you out and give you the signals. She will make it a point to be around you, she will make sure that you notice she has noticed you, and that she wants you to do something about it. And if her interest level is high enough, she'll make it easy for you to pick up on those signals to the point where asking her out or whatever it is you're going to do, is the natural next step to take.

Let the others make fools of themselves and try to earn the girl's attraction. The girl is attracted basically at the get-go. Just like when you see a girl, you size her up in an instant on if you'd want to be with her. They do the same thing. If they like you, all you have to do is maintain their interest level, but not in a hedonistic way. establish rapport, get to know her.

:goodpost:

[Formerly_LFY]

:laugh: @ the you look focused line

[REALTALK87]

gota think on the fly son

it aint gotta be pretty

[T®££§420]

a soft joke like that could work,or some eye contact and a smile could get a conversation going,I don't fuck malls any more.I'm not a materialistic person where I'd be coping shit I couldn't get a single store.And wouldn't be into a female thats into that whole MTV script shit.Good luck,take them down off of that mantel like LRM said,but the ones that have them selfs on the Mantel if they blow you off never let that shit fuck your ego up.