What to do ... ?

[a-bLock23]

Well me and my Ex just broke up cause she cheated on me.
This all happened last week.
I didn't accept her apology cause it's the 2nd time it happened.
I don't know if I made her feel like shit but she deserves it to be honest.
Then this morning, I woke up and my mom told me her grandma died.
Now I feel like shit for putting it all on her.
No one deserves to lose a loved one.
I just wanna find a way to apology and give my condolences to her but how do I do it RN ?
Like a few days ago, I was slowly in the process of moving on, trying not to be there for her cause the things she did to me, but right now I wanna be there but I just don't know how.

[Bi-Philly Chick]

Give her a hug, tell her your sorry for her loss, then keep it moving..She wasn't caring about your feelings when she cheated..Let here cry on someone else shoulder

[LRM]

be businessman-like, dont become the rebound guy. she'll claw at you like an emotional tampon if you show her any sig of vulnerability, even if u may hint at a reunion in future. an ex is an ex for a reason. this chick has to date other guys and learn for herself what a mistake she made. best thing to do is to take to higher grounf. dont get sucked into her mind tricks. you dont need her permission to start seeing new people. do it of your own accord. tell her your through and mean it, just dont say it so theres no chance of her coming back. say sorry for your loss and let her marinate in her own juices. like the girl above said, she aint your problem anymo...trust me i know lao chicks and the games they play...my aunty is a fucking dragon...to much headaches man..leave and get gone

[Slimm815]

Give her a hug, tell her your sorry for her loss, then keep it moving..She wasn't caring about your feelings when she cheated..Let here cry on someone else shoulder
What she said!!

[a-bLock23]

be businessman-like, dont become the rebound guy. she'll claw at you like an emotional tampon if you show her any sig of vulnerability, even if u may hint at a reunion in future. an ex is an ex for a reason. this chick has to date other guys and learn for herself what a mistake she made. best thing to do is to take to higher grounf. dont get sucked into her mind tricks. you dont need her permission to start seeing new people. do it of your own accord. tell her your through and mean it, just dont say it so theres no chance of her coming back. say sorry for your loss and let her marinate in her own juices. like the girl above said, she aint your problem anymo...trust me i know lao chicks and the games they play...my aunty is a fucking dragon...to much headaches man..leave and get gone

damn, how you know she was laos.
the fucked up part is that she left me behind my back for my own blood older cousin. i looked up to him and everyone knew that.
plus he just left to calgary where he from but im not sure if he's moving back here or staying where he is.
she 17, he 28.
plus this ain't the first time something happened like this.
her mom and sisters cried to me saying sorry about what happened and her mom wants to talk to her and work things out, but i said don't worry about it but she is wanting too. her sisters were pissed off that she'd do such a thing.
im not the only one affected by this, my whole family and friends are.
what happened the day of the funeral was that i gave her a hug and said what i had to say and just kept moving. next day of the burial, i was there to support the family, helping out with anything i can do.
i really cared for her but she really fucked up on her part.
i thought we both learned from our mistakes the first time but i guess not.

[ArabicKingKong]

Well me and my Ex just broke up cause she cheated on me.
This all happened last week.
I didn't accept her apology cause it's the 2nd time it happened.
I don't know if I made her feel like shit but she deserves it to be honest.
Then this morning, I woke up and my mom told me her grandma died.
Now I feel like shit for putting it all on her.
No one deserves to lose a loved one.
I just wanna find a way to apology and give my condolences to her but how do I do it RN ?
Like a few days ago, I was slowly in the process of moving on, trying not to be there for her cause the things she did to me, but right now I wanna be there but I just don't know how.

1) your first mistake was taking her back after she cheated
2) Philly chick said the same shit i woulda said... except i might have added a "this doesnt change shit" at the end of it. And its not cold-blooded, bitch is a liar and a cheat. you cant be her little lapdog bitch every time she need a shoulder 2 cry on ur there. FUCK THAT. Give that bitch your condolences and cut all the strings. bitch is trifling.
3)DOnt ever EVER EVER get back with a bitch after she cheat on u... thats some lame ass simp shit

[REALTALK87]

walk away g

[LRM]

damn, how you know she was laos.
the fucked up part is that she left me behind my back for my own blood older cousin. i looked up to him and everyone knew that.
plus he just left to calgary where he from but im not sure if he's moving back here or staying where he is.
she 17, he 28.
plus this ain't the first time something happened like this.
her mom and sisters cried to me saying sorry about what happened and her mom wants to talk to her and work things out, but i said don't worry about it but she is wanting too. her sisters were pissed off that she'd do such a thing.
im not the only one affected by this, my whole family and friends are.
what happened the day of the funeral was that i gave her a hug and said what i had to say and just kept moving. next day of the burial, i was there to support the family, helping out with anything i can do.
i really cared for her but she really fucked up on her part.
i thought we both learned from our mistakes the first time but i guess not.


lesson learned...stay away from gang-related shit...chicks like this are damaged goods and have unresolved issues stemmed from their upbringing but its no excuse. dude ur too nice. stop trying to save her. cheating to me is the action of a weak person, someone who has low-self esteem and low self respect and low awareness of what consequences their actions unfold. if they had this in spades, why commit to an affair? ive more respect for hookers than cheaters because they are honest about what they do. it hurts the most to find out when someone we cared for cheats on us but dude u got sprung fast and developed feelings for her, to even let her cheat on you twice, cmon now. its quite instinctive to know when your getting played by someone, its those lil hints, the subtle voice changes, the lies just speak themselves. if your not confident in your relationship and firm about this type of shit, girl is gonna play you. people ask me why i dont have a girl. i tell them i broke up with her two months ago. i dont need a girl to feel special. and i dont need the drama either in my life . when girls realise that i dont have time for this bullshit, they stop playing games cos they know that they gonna get the boot. i dont say anything, which might seem cruel, but i just lose communication fast. simple.

[ArabicKingKong]

lesson learned...stay away from gang-related shit...chicks like this are damaged goods and have unresolved issues stemmed from their upbringing but its no excuse. dude ur too nice. stop trying to save her. cheating to me is the action of a weak person, someone who has low-self esteem and low self respect and low awareness of what consequences their actions unfold. if they had this in spades, why commit to an affair? ive more respect for hookers than cheaters because they are honest about what they do. it hurts the most to find out when someone we cared for cheats on us but dude u got sprung fast and developed feelings for her, to even let her cheat on you twice, cmon now. its quite instinctive to know when your getting played by someone, its those lil hints, the subtle voice changes, the lies just speak themselves. if your not confident in your relationship and firm about this type of shit, girl is gonna play you. people ask me why i dont have a girl. i tell them i broke up with her two months ago. i dont need a girl to feel special. and i dont need the drama either in my life . when girls realise that i dont have time for this bullshit, they stop playing games cos they know that they gonna get the boot. i dont say anything, which might seem cruel, but i just lose communication fast. simple.

^damn thats real

[Krazyone57]

Give her a hug, tell her your sorry for her loss, then keep it moving..She wasn't caring about your feelings when she cheated..Let here cry on someone else shoulder


co-sign

[ArabicKingKong]

stupid hoes :-/

[a-bLock23]

lesson learned...stay away from gang-related shit...chicks like this are damaged goods and have unresolved issues stemmed from their upbringing but its no excuse. dude ur too nice. stop trying to save her. cheating to me is the action of a weak person, someone who has low-self esteem and low self respect and low awareness of what consequences their actions unfold. if they had this in spades, why commit to an affair? ive more respect for hookers than cheaters because they are honest about what they do. it hurts the most to find out when someone we cared for cheats on us but dude u got sprung fast and developed feelings for her, to even let her cheat on you twice, cmon now. its quite instinctive to know when your getting played by someone, its those lil hints, the subtle voice changes, the lies just speak themselves. if your not confident in your relationship and firm about this type of shit, girl is gonna play you. people ask me why i dont have a girl. i tell them i broke up with her two months ago. i dont need a girl to feel special. and i dont need the drama either in my life . when girls realise that i dont have time for this bullshit, they stop playing games cos they know that they gonna get the boot. i dont say anything, which might seem cruel, but i just lose communication fast. simple.

That's real talk on all that man.
But yeah, me and her began back in elementary. You could call us old school lovers. It affects me that much cause she was there for most of my life.
First time something like this happened was on my birthday and when my mom got released from the hospital when she stayed there for more than a year. I had been having rough times and she was there but she just moved on to another guy outta nowhere.
A year later, we both started talking, I held a grudge but still we became closer. During late Spring, we had a talk and she poured her heart out to me and so did I. I told her the deal and what I felt about what she did and all that. I really took those words from her to the heart.
Everyone around me loved her, my family especially. She somewhat became part of the family.
Yes, it may be my fault for the 2nd time because I took her back but I don't know man...
She had that affect on my life to make me believe again but now all she left me with is pain and is making it hard for me to trust people around me.
But yeah these past few days, I'm slowly realizing and tryna let go.
I appreciate those words, one of the deepest stuff I heard.