girl troubles

[CrudLuv]

my lady is gaining wieght and does not seem to be stopping she gain 40 pounds since we been together and I dont like big girl no offense just not my preference I am thinking about leaving But I want to know if I am shallow for leaving or is it justify ladies advice is definity welcome

[Nemons3000]

ey mayne if you really love this girl then her gaining a little weight shouldn't be that much of a problem as long as she is not like 250 lbs. lol ..depends on how your feelings are for her, but just talk to her and let her know how you feel...suggest that ya'll go to the gym together
just remember that females are VERY sensitive about their weight...so be easy when you are talking to her about it

[REALTALK87]

if the fact thats shes changing and your not willing to tell her and

work the problem out will change the way you treat her negatively

then i think it would be best for her if you left


She doesnt mean much to you on the real if such a thing would have you

contemplating leaving her

[jokerhiep]

spend sum doe and go buy her a dance dance revolution arcade machine

[macca132]

Same thing happened to me my girl was getting fatter and i suggested we join a gym and do swimming it was great she enjoyed and started to lose weight and was all good UNTIL we had a mini fight not sure wot bout BUT i said she was fat and thats why i got her to do the gym and swimming i know its sad but wot else can u do

[LRM]

this is really cheap...

what we are talking bout here is sex - when she no longer becomes accessible sexually he (we) move on to the next best thing - in most cases these are precursors towards divorces - failing to recognise what we have done and running away from the problem - it highlights the culture we now live in. females who once were sexually accessible and attractive to us and who we had an intimate relationship with but who later becomes unaccessible (weight gain) - which can be due to lost of self-esteem, self-respect, stress, personal, family, health issues, etc. When you basically remove sex from the equation you are stuck in a dilemma.

But wait...its very easy to say that sex isn't the most important thing to you when your getting it on the regular but is it really worth leaving (the relationship) by striking this character flaw?

There's more to making a relationship work just than sex but it remains one of the main priorities for the fellas.

The question is do you go into a relationship knowing that at a point in time she or he'll will gain weight, or do you unconditionally risk that knowing that you love that person regardless of whether she or he gains weight. It's like saying she's fat, but she has potential? if you really like her, or love her for that matter...why not try and help her lose the weight? we are talkin about truth in a relationship...do it with affirmation rather than criticism...support her and encourage her to lose weight by actively assessing her lifestyle and your own- do more physical activities together - run marathons, climb up steps, hikinhg, bike riding etc. The key word here is inclusion.

what are we really dealing with here? your insecurity by not having a slim attratctive wife or her insecurity by you paying attention to other females- the idea of leaving? if you are trying to attack her emotions by saying this then obviously she doesnt need you and it would be best to split. but if u was totally in love with her or married to her then obviously you know what to do. if not break and break fast. just dont let her find out in another way.

[PLAYBOY™]

this is really cheap...

what we are talking bout here is sex - when she no longer becomes accessible sexually he (we) move on to the next best thing - in most cases these are precursors towards divorces - failing to recognise what we have done and running away from the problem - it highlights the culture we now live in. females who once were sexually accessible and attractive to us and who we had an intimate relationship with but who later becomes unaccessible (weight gain) - which can be due to lost of self-esteem, self-respect, stress, personal, family, health issues, etc. When you basically remove sex from the equation you are stuck in a dilemma.

But wait...its very easy to say that sex isn't the most important thing to you when your getting it on the regular but is it really worth leaving (the relationship) by striking this character flaw?

There's more to making a relationship work just than sex but it remains one of the main priorities for the fellas.

The question is do you go into a relationship knowing that at a point in time she or he'll will gain weight, or do you unconditionally risk that knowing that you love that person regardless of whether she or he gains weight. It's like saying she's fat, but she has potential? if you really like her, or love her for that matter...why not try and help her lose the weight? we are talkin about truth in a relationship...do it with affirmation rather than criticism...support her and encourage her to lose weight by actively assessing her lifestyle and your own- do more physical activities together - run marathons, climb up steps, hikinhg, bike riding etc. The key word here is inclusion.

what are we really dealing with here? your insecurity by not having a slim attratctive wife or her insecurity by you paying attention to other females- the idea of leaving? if you are trying to attack her emotions by saying this then obviously she doesnt need you and it would be best to split. but if u was totally in love with her or married to her then obviously you know what to do. if not break and break fast. just dont let her find out in another way.

i have to agree with most of that but heres where i disagree

agreed, sex isnt everything....it cant be...a relationship cannot last, based on sex alone, i've never seen it work...even the lamest of guys, at some point, say to themselves "alright this bitch is wack..i mean im getting laid on the regular but i'd rather go without pussy than stay with this bitch"

it wont last

for a relationship to last you need 3 things

-physical attraction
-mental stimulation
-emotional support

the relationship has to have connectivity on all cylinders, meaning

-your physically attracted to them
-they're able to hold a conversation and express themselves, as well as giving you new ways to view certain aspects of life
-they are there when you need them

you might date a 600lb chick with acne, and OTHERS might find her ugly, but YOU YOURSELF are attracted to her, you might date someone a few people, or many people consider ugly, but you yourself cannot think that the persons ugly, theres no way you can date someone you think is ugly, and make it work...impossible

so lets look at this way

he liked her when she was at an X amount of weight

now she is heavier than she used to be....

maybe physically, he is not attracted to bigger women, thus turning him off to her now

that kills one of the relationship cylinders

it kills the physical attraction

you cant have a relationship just based on emotional support and mental stimulation, u need a balance of all 3

its not that hes shallow, its just that he is not attracted to her new form, and i think it would be unfair to both of them to continue with the relationship when he is truly unhappy inside, and shes going around thinking everything is great

he needs to sit down with her straight up and tell her what hes feeling, before the matter becomes worse

[LRM]

anyways back to the issue of weight...

im not talking about the faithful types im talking about those that go from one relationship to the next and bring with it false hope to the ladies...im thinking the reason why she got to this point in her life is a result of both you and her...something so real and so divisive that cause her to become this way...now I dont know what problems you are both having but lets be honest about it and man up...none of this whinging crap about she aint stopping...if you see her a certain way why didnt you step in and tell her straight away and yet instead you chose to fall back hoping and praying for certain that this will amount to some valid reason for you to leave the relationship? its not like u just realise she just gained weight...if it really bugged you you would have tried to say something - then - not now and when she is 20 pounds heavier

people change and grow as they get older its just the nature of life....people age, they get into car accidents/mishaps - lost arms, legs, sight, become paralysed not of their own volition but due to unforunate events but can you project that far into the future and determine whether you stay in a relationship or not from the get go? no. many people have stuck together and done the hard yards and come out the end better and stronger.

if u are in this for the long haul u should help her..its such a lame excuse to leave a relationship just because someone is putting on weight..people make perception and gossip very powerful weapons because they cant scratch pass the superficialness

if you cant confide in someone and certain that they will be there to help you then fuck this world

[guyanese]

Hand cuff her to a treadmill

[CrudLuv]

yo i told her about it every 5 pounds she put on and she kind of ignored me about my problem but she think i am replaceable which we both are but u wont find another me it is nothing to leave a long term relationship because i dont owe nobody anything because in the long run it is all about your happiness

[badboy]

Hand cuff her to a treadmill

LMAOOOOOOOOO :laugh:

[KoBBiE™]

if u really love som1 the mental and emotional part over weighs the attraction part