Unrequited love.....

[MFNastraDoomus]

Knew a girl since I was about 8 .....we grew up together and eventually i developed feelings for her
Around the time i developed feelings for her she was in love with some real loser nigga(her first love)

So her and this dickhead boyfriend been on and off since about april but everytime she leave him she come running to me for comfort,she fucks with my head(no pun intended) and my heart by doing this and i cant do shit about it...I think am in love but i dont know what this feeling really is
any advice?

[W1ld Bill]

yeah i been there

u need to talk to her and put everything on the table. From there if things aint gonna work in your favor then you need to realize that shit is dead. Its not gonna be easy but that doesn't change the fact that that's what needs to be done.

This aint the movies man. Just because you keep pursuing a chick don't mean that your gonna get her. I used to think this way. Its only gonna fuck you up.

If she aint tryin to be with you then you need to, for you own sake, look somewhere else for companionship.

I'm not saying you shouldn't be her friend no more in the process but that maybe an option seeing as how it'll be difficult to be around her knowing you have all these feelings for her. Thats where im at now

You gotta make what you want known. Girls are fantastic when it comes to mind games and emotions but when you start to like them they never recognize it or see it coming. They need things laid out in front of them and thats what you gotta do with this chick

You might get lucky and find out that she cares about you the same way but was only dating other dudes cuz you never said nothing. I hate when girls do that btw :smh:

[Skane87]

let her go.. its hard.. but.. u gon have to. Does she kno how u feel bout her? If she doesnt.. then I think she should kno. Itz a new yr.. take more chances.. u wont kno unless u find out fo urself. U say she be fukin wid ur head.. soo maybe she does like u. Or maybe ur jus gettin mixed signalz. Well u do want her dont u? So try and get her. Show her how a real guy should treat his girl. Make her feel good.. take her out.. go places she hasnt been to. Make her see places and see thingz she'd never think bout seeing.. and somewhere along tha line.. tell her bout how u feel.. (if u havnt already)

[MFNastraDoomus]

Damm W1id Bill you a smart nigga

I cant see myself pursuing anyone else, but she keep breaking my heart when she goes back with her ex

It might be infatuation but i really do like her....and i wouldnt know where else to go to find the comfort she give me....if it is fuckin my head up I SHOULD quit...but it wont be easy

[MFNastraDoomus]

Skane87
I put my feelings out for her... things she wont tell me how she really feel

[W1ld Bill]

Damm W1id Bill you a smart nigga

I cant see myself pursuing anyone else, but she keep breaking my heart when she goes back with her ex

It might be infatuation but i really do like her....and i wouldnt know where else to go to find the comfort she give me....if it is fuckin my head up I SHOULD quit...but it wont be easy

lookin at the response makes me feel like im looking into a mirror

I feel the same exact way down to a T and the shit aint sweet. I know.

And trust me when i tell you. It takes a very very long time to get over it. I wouldn't wish this kind of pain and torment on my worst enemy. Thats just how terrible that is.

Like i said man i used to believe that if i kept pursuing her that eventually everything would fall into place but this aint the movies, this is reality. Its just a fact of life that there are gonna be things that just aint gonna work out the way you want them too.

Currently im kinda having a battle between head and heart where my head is telling me that all signs point to this not working but my heart refuses to believe that. I would say that its about 60/40 in which case my head is winning the battle but to even get that slight advantage took A LOT of work.

There's three (seemingly) simple steps you have to overcome

1) Communicate--Make yourself vulnearable and put everything on the table (assuming you haven't already)

2) Analyze & Decide --Use your head (not your heart) and take everything as its given to you. Take it for what it is and analyze it and decide if there really is a chance this could work out. The reason i say use your head and not your heart is because your head and your thoughts are more reality based whereas your feelings and your heart are more ideal and seeing things how you wanna see them.

If you decide that after everythings been laid out that there's a chance for ya'll to date then congrats if not then move to step 3

3) Friendship or not?--Now that you realize ya'll can't be together its a matter of determining whether or not you can still manage to be friends with her considering it is what you feel for her. Can you be around this girl and feel like you have all this love to give her but there's no chance that can happen? You already kinda knows what this feels like since she's been dating other people in front of you. Its like a kick in the face everytime you talk to her and see her. But do you really want to throw away the friendship from the girl who you've been friends with for so long and who you care about so much? This is where im at and its a very tough decision.

Shits not easy fam. Its tough

[Da_Kid_G4T]

:woot: go W1ld Bill wit the good advice

[Skane87]

*cries* .. *snifff* i give good advice too !!! hhmpphh.. *lookz @ wildbillz propz in CP* .. :-D

[REALTALK87]

i do feel your pain son

tell her whats up

[jameswitalldadames]

tell her just leave the guy cuz obviously they aint workin out cuz they goin on n of n wen she is free talk to her more n then ull see if u love her or if its jus a crush