I have a major problem yall. i really need help. will give props

[Mgs2master2]

I have a major problem. its my girl. we here is the whole situation, her ex broke up with her around early december, i hooked up with her mid december. i met her when she was out here in cali on vacation, she really lives in philly. i been talkin to her since we met. well anyhow her ex is crazy. just a week ago, this is the problem btw, he came to her house drunk and he said he wants to talk, i told her not to go but she wanted to hear what he had to say. shes a peaceful black girl, she doesnt have beef with anyone so she wanted to patch things up. anyhow she went with her ex and he went to his own house, he was drunk as shit. 2 other guys were waiting there and when she walked it with her ex all three grabbed her and raped her. right now i got a flight ticket to go see her this weekend because of this, she is scared as shit, she wont talk to anyone else but me, she doesnt know if shes pregant because he didnt have a rubber when he busted in her. shes goin to the doctor friday and i told her to go to the police tomorrow after classes so she can file a rape report and get a restraining order. shes basically gonna get this nigga thrown in jail. she only listens to me and no one else, she hasnt told anyone else yet.

heres where i need yalls help. I told her to tell her parents and her aunt, because she lives with her aunt, and to go to the police station. i dont know what else to do, if my flight doesnt get cancelled ima be there this weekend but i need to help her out yall. please give me some major advice. i dont know what to do yall. i will give props, as long as you post in here. but please yall i beg of yall to help me.

[macki123pi]

thats fucked up..sorry to hear that...just talk and comfort her....show her that you'll be there for her when she really needs you...try and take her mind off what happened, which will be hard to do....counseling might be an option...best of luck

[Mgs2master2]

thanks... i told her to try and keep her dancing up because she does dancing. shes moving out here middle of the year, i can take care of her then, but right now all i can do is just help her like this... thanks, anyone else wanna help?

[PLAYBOY™]

well theres not much more u can do u seem like u've done all u can being that ur in cali and shes in philly

the rape already took place...and if she files the police report he'll get hit with some time

so as far as the rape, thats behind her..the worst is over

what you have to do now is help her move past it, try to get her to move past it

like macki said thats going to be hard to do


the trick is..u want to talk about it somewhat, because if u pretend like it didnt happen, not only is that unrealistic, but thats immature and most likely she'll repress the event and it will leave a scar which will show up at a later time

repression just postpones emotions

she has to let everything out...counseling might help

and things might also get better when she moves out there with u this year

good luck with everything im sorry this happened

[Mgs2master2]

thanks... we talked about this since the night it happened, its been a few days or a week i believe. were ready to move on with this, the problem is we gotta wait til test results come from the doctor on friday. as soon as that happens and it comes back negative, we will be able to put closure. seems like shes in deep shit because she waited so long to tell her parents, so i wont be updated with whats goin on until ever night, prolly around the same time. thanks again, u just got proped. anyone else wanna try to help me out, she managed to get some sleep now but im tramatized because i was there always to help her with every situation and protect her, now i feel like shit because i failed her....

[©®@Kẩ√£[]_I ™]

sounds like youve done the right thing, all im gonna add is

aids test ..

[jameswitalldadames]

u didnt really fail her u live to far away dont feel like its ur fault it will make it a lil worse but ya do wat macki and chonic said but make sure she feels safe when your around that will help too

[D-MaC1105]

_I ™;9721405']sounds like youve done the right thing, all im gonna add is

aids test ..

YES!! Please ask her to get tested....
Honestly, it seems as if you've done a great job being there for her. Just one piece of advice...I've never gone through something so rough, but knowing how some girls deal with anger, don't be surprised if she starts taking things out on you. (She doesn't really have anywhere else to direct her anger) Just try ur best to put up with it for a little while. Good luck with this situation and try not to get yourself in trouble over in Philly. I know you must want to kill this guy.

GOOD LUCK!

[{$~ALL-3Y3Z-0n-ME~$}]

wat everyone said above
good luck homie

[Dhiphopman]

id be loading the 9 if i were u. No really get ready to beat some heads in. Thats some fucked up shit

[Mgs2master2]

i propped yall, but the situation has gotten to the point where its completely horrible. okay heres the update, yall seem to give me great advice so help me out here.
so today she went to school, and the guy that raped her started talkin, ya know gettin in her head, she didnt say anything and the guy i told to watch out for her at school whooped the guys ass. when she got back from school she told her aunt the situation and they went to go to talk to the guy's parents. the guys parents said "we didnt raise our boy like that, your niece probably came over here and lookin for sex because shes a slut" and on top of that the guy told her "what we dont kiss, we dont cuddle. what else am i suppose to do, ur driving me crazy bitch" needless to say she started cryin and shes been down all day. shes tellin her parents as we im tellin yall right now. another factor that was added to this was that this guy had one of his friend's make a fake myspace and message her threatin her and saying that hes gonna post the video and pics they took of her when they raped her on the internet. and appeartly they found out that im her boyfriend so they tryin to gun for me now. they know im comin out this weekend. so shes tellin me to stay back in cali because her ex is supposibly a gangsta of sometype and she doesnt want me to get killed. one last thing, i havent told her this yet, but her ex hit me up on myspace. seems he found my account, he messaged me sayin that they never broke up and he doesnt want me to legitablly get hurt when i get out there this weekend. i didnt reply, i asked my girl if this is true but she never let me know, she was "oh i gotta go" and she ignored all calls after that.

okay so heres my question for yall... what should i do? should i pull out for right now or what should i do? i dont knoow what to believe now.

[Dhiphopman]

U might be gettin played. Women work in wierd ways sometimes

[Mgs2master2]

if im gettin played u dont know what ima do. in the words of some famous guy, i would never hit a girl but i will smack the shit out of a bitch. so if i find out she plays me, ima consider her a bitch and she gonna get smacked. hands down. someone help me out here.

[cold~as~ice]

all i know is dont try and take matters into ur own hands, nigga cuz it aint right nah mean

[darkskaR^]

Wow that's really fucked up bro.. I mean yeah in this type of situation you really did your best.. I was gonna say comfort her and talk to her and be there for her during this whole thing and whatever the result is take it and get through it.

See, one thing that I don't get is that HOW DID THEY FIND OUT YOUR HER BOYFRIEND? She had to have mentioned you and that you are in Cali and your coming out back real soon. Cause you can't just make assumptions like that and be on point, know what I mean?

I say she's just scared for you that they might hurt you or something because, well put it this way.. Pretend your the guy that raped her right? The girl went and told someone for sure, you think now "Shit, did she tell on me? Am I busted?.. Who else knows?".. So what you do is try to scare the person into not coming back n shit so you can get the clear and not have you open your mouth and back her up.. Cause as soon as you come back you will help her and then the guy (raper) will get scared and thinks he's going to jail.

So as an act of fright he act's all big on the internet and makes up someshit about how he's gonna supposedly "kill you".. This guy is going to jail for rape, I don't think he wants to add to his sentence. So what I'm saying is, go back and trust me, nothing will happen. Get some of your boys to back you up aswell.

As he and she have been digging around, you do the same aswell. She went and told her raper about you, he went and snooped around and found your myspace and acted all tough. So you be smart aswell and act the same way and see what this guy is really about and get some of your boys to do some snooping and get some details before you actually go back.

Get what am saying?

[dys·func·tion·al]

i dont fuck with bitches with crazy ex :smh:... just find another girl or whoop that nigga ass

[Degenerate]

I've had friends who got jumped over girls and it's really not worth it especially if she's gonna put you in the situation where you could get beat up as well.

I agree with DarkSkar that she probably mentioned you to the guys who raped her and it's in the back of my mind that she might be setting you up or something. I don't want to scare you, but it's a possibility.

If your still set on going out there then I suggest you don't let her know where your staying (so the guys can't find you) and when you meet up with her do it in a public and crowded area (so if they are with her then there are people there who can be witnesses in-case something pops off) not around her house or allys or some shit.

Good luck on this and I hope the best for you.

[Mgs2master2]

well i dont know whats happenin now. i still got a flight and its tomorrow, im still gonna go i guess ima do what u said Dengerate, i wont let her where im stayin. just to be sure. im not tryin to get shot or get my ass beat over a girl. that shit will suck. anyhow last i heard about the situation was that she told me that she finally went to the police yesterday and they went to arrest the guy last night. also this guy before he got arrested, he was tryin to fuck with her mind. he said shit like "baby, we never broke up what the hell is wrong with you? you dont kiss me, you dont cuddle with me. what else is a nigga suppose to do but go crazy?" and he kept tryin to get in her ear sayin "yo baby i need to talk to u, whats wrong with u. i was playin with u when i raped u, i really need to talk with u." anyhow shes gettin her pregancy test today, hopefully it comes out negative....

[darkskaR^]

Yeah that sound's all good bro, hope it really is like that.. But also MAKE SURE man, always have this in your head, cause you NEVER REALLY KNOW..

She might be setting you up, YOU NEVER KNOW. It's a possibility bro, it's a chance you have to take.. Just have that in your mind, ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN. She might even be a man, to take what im saying far lol.. ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN!

So just BE CAREFUL.. Be cautious and don't let her know what your up to bro, go slow and see what's really up!

Good luck bro, update me later..God BLESS!

[Akumei™]

gawd that sux sooooooooooo much ass...u better hope she doesnt kno ne thing about this rn forum shit or its over lolol..well, nigga jus say to her that ur in philly and when u ready to bounce, holla at me..cuz if you say sum shit about meetin up or w/e b4 ur time in philly expires, thats when its kinda shakey cuz it might be from others said, a setup..cuz how in the blu hell he found your myspace..she had to tell him your info..shit dont sound right here..keep ya eyes open playa

[m1z_h34d7urn3r]

sorry to hear that man =\ i hope shes orite.. well the only advice i can think of is to comfort her, be there for her and make her feel safe with you.. u said she only can talk to u, that means she trust u.. when u go to see her take her out and make her feel special soshe can get her mind of things... i know shes in a tough situation and its guna take time for her to move on but the best thing for u to do is be there for her... i hope i helpd :):)

[Bad_Breed]

1 - long distance relationship dont work. holiday romance dont work. have her as a fuck buddy
2 - STOP SNITCHIN.

[Mgs2master2]

bad breed dont give me that bullshit. anyhow latest update and i think last one cuz i kicked her to the curb after i got out there. seems like the whole time i was out there, i kicked it with her sister instead of her. she didnt want meet up at all, she was playin me all. i said fuck it im not gonna deal with this bullshit, oh well i managed to smash on her sister before i left. my ex's sister didnt like how my ex treated me and played me, and my ex's sister wanted to smash, nothin like a freeky virgin girl though. that was an hour before my flight. ever since then i didnt talk to my ex and my ex's sister wants to keep it as fuck buddy status. so whatever now. guess it worked somehow.

[Mgs2master2]

oh yea fuck bitches! im done being a nice guy for a while, girls take advantage of that shit, thats how i got played.

[lyteskinsoulja]

yea man.....hoes take advantage of that nice guy shit. I useto be the same way. U can't help everybody. Never hook up with a chick during or right after a big relationship break cause 9 times out of then they gonna use you as they "fall back nigga" if you try to make'em feel better.
That and its been my fucked up exprience twice already that after a chick gets raped....that don't think right.
My ex that I went out with last year "supposely" got raped and then treated me like shit like I was the one that raped her but ain't want me to get back at the nigga who did it.
Females pull more crazy shit than us niggas these days man

[Mgs2master2]

indeed man, these girls take advantage niggas now. thats why we call them bitches. im honestly done with relationships for a while, ima just smash on girls for a while until the right one comes along. until then i say fuck bitches. tired of these girls takin advantage of the nice guy. been happenin all my mothafuckin life. i aint gonna take it anymore. wise words from yall. thanks.

[lyteskinsoulja]

/\ yeeep,thats the role I been playin. Fuck they feeling,U gotta play the game in yo favor.

[Hram]

BEAT DEM NIGGAS DOWN

[asher1]

Do you want a hit ordered?

[fantomx]

you were scared for your life you wasted mad money on a plane and i bet a hotel and you got played you should kill you fucking self now

[Jago11]

If RN made money and we got free trips and shit I would ride wit ya to see her if that was aight because we are a little family here. But fuck him, he is a bitch for doing that girl like that. But comfort her man because she is gonna need it badly. Also make sure she can call you at anytime if you really like her. Like I am in college and all but if I had a girl like the one I am dreamin of then she could call me anytime. I do not give a damn what time it is. If she says we need to talk, then get yo ass up and talk. Don't fuck around because it is someone out there who will get they ass up. Now I dunno about ya'll but for minez....I am there no doubt. OH AND ALSO, DEFINETELY GET THAT SEX TEST. But I hope I helped and propz to eveyone in here because this is howing we are a real RN family and not just hear for bullshit cd's and porn. PEACE

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[gs2weasy]

i had a cousin dat had got raped up in new york and shit......i almost fucked dat nigga up real bad but just dont go trying to get at him on dat anger tip cause ull end up fucking urself up

[the_protege2]

so not only did you smash ur ex's sister BEFORE you left, you smashed the hoes sister WHILE you were there!!!!! MAD PROPS MY NIG!!!

[drareg]

god dam..this is one fucked up story

[Muluba]

The best thing to is: warn his parents, go to the cops ASAP, aids testing. Don't go and see the guy by yourself, it will just not help in the contrary.