~GETTING OVER HEARTBREAKS~

[beautiful_dyme]

me and my man been together for 2 years, and we recently broke up.i can't tell ya how much it fuckin hurts.i treated him right all the tyme.we never got into any agruments and i remained faithful.but, i swear out of the blue he said that he realized that we shouldn't be together bcuz were both young. he said he wanted to remain friends bcuz of the strong bond.he could of cheated and came to that descison but i wasn't jealous and never invaded his personal space, n atleast if he did cheat that would make it easier to understand why.i feel really depressed and upset and question my worth.i have only luv 4 him and wish him the best but i can't be "just" friends.it's been two weeks and i'm sad alot the time from the pain.has anyone gone thru the same thing,or knows how to recover?

[Cro$$_Roads1999]

everyone that has been in a relationship and had a first love will know what ur goin through, love is the most dangerous thing in the world to me, cuz any other pain you can take medicines or do whatever a heartbreak tho is only cured through time and sometimes it can be a looooooong time for the pain to go away, but the most important thing you have to tell yourself is that things will get better and who knows maybe he will realize he made a mistake and will come back to you..

if he doesnt then things just werent meant to be and you will have to eventually move on, and dont think that ur the only one that is sad if its been 2 years he is sad and thinks about u all the time to i gurantee it, and it dont matter what kinda guy he is 2 years is a long time to be with someone so its only natural to miss that person, and as far as the being friends with a ex im the same way as you its hard for me to be friends with someone that im still in love with cuz i will always want more and it will only be harder on me to still be around that person, But in the end you have to think do u want them in your life as a friend atleast or not at all? i wish u the best of luck and hope that everything works out cuz like i said love is the most dangerous pain in the world and only time is the medicine for it

[Br0ward^954^K0untie]

Damn that sux ma, Im goin thru somethin similar now.......I was off and on with my (former) wifey for like 6 years (yes i said 6)...we still friendly but with us breakin up I understood.....but if yall was together that long he either hidin somethin or there is some unspoken reason that this has happened.....

Real talk, if he talkin bout yall young and shit, he probally wanna fuck around with otha bitches and go clubbin and shit....Shit he see's his homeboys doin....cuz he curious what that lifestyle like, I was the same way....

but ya like dude said post before me, wait to see if he come's back...make him jealous, tell him you have a BF or somethin and see how he reacts....he probally misses you just as much or more than you miss him....

[Skane87]

ive gone through tha same thing.. almost a yr ago.. but.. im not over her at all.. love of my life.. i messed around wid girlz.. and all of that.. but nothin can ever break wat me and her had.. its a new yr girl.. i mean jus keep ya head up.. it gon hurt.. i wont say itz not.. thatz life.. nothin lasts forever.. errythin goes @ some point in time.. i cried day and night fo her.. begger fo her to come bac.. and she has but.. not as my girl... more like a friend wid benefit.. but... its good enough.. @ least i see her and shit.. just dont give up tho.. be dere fo him like rain.. (get it .. reigndeer.. be dere.. fo him like rain?) .. uhh forget it.. soo anywayzz.. im tipsy.. righ now but if u need more advice or someone to talk to .. im here.. jus PM me and ima be dere fo u wid tha quickness

[kayy0ungn]

NAW MA ON SOME REAL SHIT, STUFF LIKE THIS TAKES TIME

[Bhopal84]

I'm goin through the same shit ma.

We was together goin on 4 years and everything was cool. We planned on building our lives together. I was even ready to propose in February. But I guess she felt like she was missin out on being young. I'm 22, she's 21 so we've been together since she was 17. I understand where she is coming from, of course she wants to do what the rest of her friends are doing: going to clubs, no commitments... yada yada yada.

I love her to death and I've never felt pain like this before but I know that life goes on. Whether you are ready or not, the world will keep moving and you can't let yourself get left behind.


You know how the expression goes, "If you really love someone, let them go. If they really love you, they'll come back." I guess that's the way I'm trying to look at it. I love her to death, i would literally give my life for her but why should I waste my time on someone who isn't thinking about me. As hard as it may be, people like us just have to move on and know that the pain has only made us stronger.

And a word of advice, don't try being "just friends". Not yet anyway, your still hurting. Time will make things better and eventually you will be friends again but if you still love him you will always have hope that he'll come back and it will only make the pain 10X's worse.

Hope I've helped in some way..

[Makaveli95348]

I'm goin through the same shit ma.

We was together goin on 4 years and everything was cool. We planned on building our lives together. I was even ready to propose in February. But I guess she felt like she was missin out on being young. I'm 22, she's 21 so we've been together since she was 17. I understand where she is coming from, of course she wants to do what the rest of her friends are doing: going to clubs, no commitments... yada yada yada.

I love her to death and I've never felt pain like this before but I know that life goes on. Whether you are ready or not, the world will keep moving and you can't let yourself get left behind.


You know how the expression goes, "If you really love someone, let them go. If they really love you, they'll come back." I guess that's the way I'm trying to look at it. I love her to death, i would literally give my life for her but why should I waste my time on someone who isn't thinking about me. As hard as it may be, people like us just have to move on and know that the pain has only made us stronger.

And a word of advice, don't try being "just friends". Not yet anyway, your still hurting. Time will make things better and eventually you will be friends again but if you still love him you will always have hope that he'll come back and it will only make the pain 10X's worse.

Hope I've helped in some way..

Nicely Put

Recently went through same stuff with ma girl got back with her though...she just wanted to just be friends so she broke up with 3weeks later she comes back begging I still love im sorry for the stupid things i said I cant be with out you...Me still loving her to death i got back with her

sorry its kinda short wish i could right the whole story but i gotta go to this fam thing

[Shogun0125]

It's going to take time. It took me almost a year to get over my ex. When I finally talked to her, I noticed that she changed and things just weren't the same. I needed to see that. And from time to time, I still miss the old her but I know its never going to be the same and I just have to move on.

[REALTALK87]

complete recovery is impossible

Unless.. you find someone that alleviates ur previous pain.

Upgrade

[Dhiphopman]

THE FRIENDS THING WILL NEVER WORK. GO FUCK SOMEONE AND YOULL FEEL BETTER

[Krazyone57]

THE FRIENDS THING WILL NEVER WORK. GO FUCK SOMEONE AND YOULL FEEL BETTER


Fuckin Someone els Makes It all Better... and if that don't work try fuckin another person it works for me...

[Makaveli95348]

Fuckin Someone els Makes It all Better... and if that don't work try fuckin another person it works for me...

It aint always bout fukin nigg...it disgustes me that you think that way

[...:::Aries...:::]

2 years is a long time to be in a relationship and just give up...he may just be going threw something right now. If u can wait for him 2 recover I say u just be "friends" and eventually if u guys really did have love for one another he'll come back to u.
Im not sayin that u guys wont date other people while he's goin threw his little situation (it may be a commitment issue) but dont be upset when u see him with different girls.

[...:::Aries...:::]

I'm goin through the same shit ma.

We was together goin on 4 years and everything was cool. We planned on building our lives together. I was even ready to propose in February. But I guess she felt like she was missin out on being young. I'm 22, she's 21 so we've been together since she was 17. I understand where she is coming from, of course she wants to do what the rest of her friends are doing: going to clubs, no commitments... yada yada yada.

I love her to death and I've never felt pain like this before but I know that life goes on. Whether you are ready or not, the world will keep moving and you can't let yourself get left behind.


You know how the expression goes, "If you really love someone, let them go. If they really love you, they'll come back." I guess that's the way I'm trying to look at it. I love her to death, i would literally give my life for her but why should I waste my time on someone who isn't thinking about me. As hard as it may be, people like us just have to move on and know that the pain has only made us stronger.

And a word of advice, don't try being "just friends". Not yet anyway, your still hurting. Time will make things better and eventually you will be friends again but if you still love him you will always have hope that he'll come back and it will only make the pain 10X's worse.

Hope I've helped in some way..


U seriously need ur own talk show or to write a book, this shit changed my whole perspective on love and relationships...good shit

[lyteskinsoulja]

Simple and plain......ain't no short cuts. Time heals all....it'll slowly pass. Believe me,I've been there more than enough times.

[ThA PriNceSS]

time.....takes time......
just learned that myself.

[The Wife]

Im in love right now so I dont really have any advice.This thread actually depressed me and Im gonna go call him right now and make him promise me this wont happen to us.

[beautiful_dyme]

what's worse i that this realtionship is making me wanna be celibate and stayaway from "love".

[*FROSTY*]

I'm goin through the same shit ma.

We was together goin on 4 years and everything was cool. We planned on building our lives together. I was even ready to propose in February. But I guess she felt like she was missin out on being young. I'm 22, she's 21 so we've been together since she was 17. I understand where she is coming from, of course she wants to do what the rest of her friends are doing: going to clubs, no commitments... yada yada yada.

I love her to death and I've never felt pain like this before but I know that life goes on. Whether you are ready or not, the world will keep moving and you can't let yourself get left behind.


You know how the expression goes, "If you really love someone, let them go. If they really love you, they'll come back." I guess that's the way I'm trying to look at it. I love her to death, i would literally give my life for her but why should I waste my time on someone who isn't thinking about me. As hard as it may be, people like us just have to move on and know that the pain has only made us stronger.

And a word of advice, don't try being "just friends". Not yet anyway, your still hurting. Time will make things better and eventually you will be friends again but if you still love him you will always have hope that he'll come back and it will only make the pain 10X's worse.

Hope I've helped in some way..


yeppp i was about to say that too. lol seriously tho

[lilcrise]

hit something else man

[Bhopal84]

Did we ever get an update from shorty that strated this thread?