What is he thinking???

[mahmi]

Fellahs, Is it better for the female to play hard to get? Act as if she doesnt care, if she wants to get your keep your attention? Be real about it.

I'm talking to this guy and I'm not sure how he feels about me. We talk most days out the week together but its never about being "together" he calls me to see how I am and stuff and lets me talk because he doesnt talk that much, he more on the quiet side and I talk alot! we are not in denial over it. haha. I have lots of energy and hes very laidback, so we are opposites. We flirt and stuff, especially online.
Anyways...... I'm use to being the dominant one and here is this challange. I noticed recently without me even realizing it, he has began to dominate me! He controls my actions, almost manipulates me and I got mad about it.
I know he talks to other girls but I just dont know the motives are for me with him, like where are we headed. Its like its always a surprise with him, I never know what will happen. He's on the reserved side, so his cool/composure is usually kept hes not moved easily. Help your girl out...... What should I do in this sittuation? Should I simply cut him loose for being difficult? I wish I could read his mind!(I'm workin on it) or he would say whats up.

[Eazy Da Snowman]

i was just like dude when i met my recent girl... i was always quiet and by doin things dat she aint realized by doin, i started 2 dominate her lol... but then i changed cuz i started 2 like her alot and i just started 2 give her more attention and stopped talkin 2 other girlz... now im love wit her... so ya kno, he prolly doin this just 2 play hard 2 get... throw him more signs out there dat u like him and stuff... my best advace is 2 just is give him some time... he'll prolly come around and get wit u, ma... if he dont do it fast then cut him loose lol...

[mahmi]

Tru. Thanks

[W1ld Bill]

Fellahs, Is it better for the female to play hard to get? Act as if she doesnt care, if she wants to get your keep your attention? Be real about it.

2 part answer

1) Personally, i really really fuckin hate that shit when people do that. Guys or Girls. Its a bunch of frontin. How immature do you have to be to act like you don't like someone when you (and probably them too) know that you do. And then when the people that play hard to get wonder why the other one stops chasin they wanna get tight and shit. Just be real. I aint saying be a ho and throw yourself at dude but be as honest and upfront with your intentions as you can possibly be when you feel the time calls for it. Communication is a very powerful tool that most people commonly underestimate. The world would be such a better place if people were more honest and forthright with each other. Wouldn't require all kinda game playing and hurting people and shit.

That's my personal opinion...

2) Outside the realm of my personal opinion and into the broader realm of society, sadly enough, playing hard does work and is effective. Find some way to care less, put up a wall or do whatever you gotta do. If he's feeling you he'll take interest in the whole idea of you retreating and most likely reciprocate by showing you some emotions to get the friendship back to where it was. If it doesn't then he probably doesn't care about you enough to do that.

so in short, does playing hard to get work? Yes. Do I think you should do it? Hell fuckin no

[cp3boy]

If you feelin him and he single, snatch tha nigga up for someone else get him

[PLAYBOY™]

well im not down for that shit...the second i feel ur not interested, i dead u, or if i feel like ur gonna put me on this chase to get u, i dead u as well

im gonna be 19 this year, and 20 next year, i dont got time for that kid shit no more...maybe back when i was like 15,16...not now

and i pity girls my age who still use that tactic

as far as vice versa..guys that do it...i know i've unintentionally done it many a time..and i've been told its frusterating or w/e, but im working on that

as far as it being done to me, i have a zero-tolerance policy for it

[mahmi]

If you feelin him and he single, snatch tha nigga up for someone else get him
Yeah, sounds logical. If it were only that easy

[natee]

nah but despite how bad the whole concept of playing hard to get is it works....

girl presents herself --> guy thinks... why is this so easy... there must be something wrong with her for it to be so easy... it shouldnt be so easy
girl is hard to get --> guy thinks... she seems to be a challenge... she must be worth the extra effort...

a bit blunt but in essence true :) just dont over do the hard to get thing... impossible to get is not gonna cut it... hehe

[gilx141]

2 part answer

1) Personally, i really really fuckin hate that shit when people do that. Guys or Girls. Its a bunch of frontin. How immature do you have to be to act like you don't like someone when you (and probably them too) know that you do. And then when the people that play hard to get wonder why the other one stops chasin they wanna get tight and shit. Just be real. I aint saying be a ho and throw yourself at dude but be as honest and upfront with your intentions as you can possibly be when you feel the time calls for it. Communication is a very powerful tool that most people commonly underestimate. The world would be such a better place if people were more honest and forthright with each other. Wouldn't require all kinda game playing and hurting people and shit.

That's my personal opinion...

2) Outside the realm of my personal opinion and into the broader realm of society, sadly enough, playing hard does work and is effective. Find some way to care less, put up a wall or do whatever you gotta do. If he's feeling you he'll take interest in the whole idea of you retreating and most likely reciprocate by showing you some emotions to get the friendship back to where it was. If it doesn't then he probably doesn't care about you enough to do that.

so in short, does playing hard to get work? Yes. Do I think you should do it? Hell fuckin no my nigga right here said it all be,playing hard to get in my oppinion is very childesh,its a waste of my time..so confront that dude of your and be like whats going on.and let him know that you know whatchu think is going on (lmao)
..wtf,but6 yeah..holla back 1

[mahmi]

Is there a way to get the best of both ideas? Hard to get but able to show that I am interested?

I'm very upfont because it so silly not to be "it is what its is" but for the first time I'm not sure if thats the way to handle it with him. I personally get turned off if someone puts everything on the table not saying they cant but its the technique, actions and time with me. I dont want it to be like I'm sweatin him, ya feel me?

[nerco892003]

girls like when men are reserved and in control of thereself and who ever is around them, would you rather him be all up in your face tryin to get your attention looking needed.

You like the fact that he is dominant cause its different and the more different and out of the normal of what your used to the more you will be attracted to him and wont be that easy to cut him off. but you should ask him where both ya are headed and whats his feelings

[mahmi]

girls like when men are reserved and in control of thereself and who ever is around them, would you rather him be all up in your face tryin to get your attention looking needed.

You like the fact that he is dominant cause its different and the more different and out of the normal of what your used to the more you will be attracted to him and wont be that easy to cut him off. but you should ask him where both ya are headed and whats his feelingsYeah, I will try and see. No I dont want him in my face about it, I just wanna know where we stand and is the feeling mutual. Though, how should I present it? Should I be just as in control or what? I dont want to be where I pour my heart out and he is like "uh ok, yeah you cool" or try to walk over me because now he knows my feelings for him.

[natethejewpimp]

2 part answer

1) Personally, i really really fuckin hate that shit when people do that. Guys or Girls. Its a bunch of frontin. How immature do you have to be to act like you don't like someone when you (and probably them too) know that you do. And then when the people that play hard to get wonder why the other one stops chasin they wanna get tight and shit. Just be real. I aint saying be a ho and throw yourself at dude but be as honest and upfront with your intentions as you can possibly be when you feel the time calls for it. Communication is a very powerful tool that most people commonly underestimate. The world would be such a better place if people were more honest and forthright with each other. Wouldn't require all kinda game playing and hurting people and shit.

That's my personal opinion...

2) Outside the realm of my personal opinion and into the broader realm of society, sadly enough, playing hard does work and is effective. Find some way to care less, put up a wall or do whatever you gotta do. If he's feeling you he'll take interest in the whole idea of you retreating and most likely reciprocate by showing you some emotions to get the friendship back to where it was. If it doesn't then he probably doesn't care about you enough to do that.

so in short, does playing hard to get work? Yes. Do I think you should do it? Hell fuckin no
real talk

[flip07]

Big ups WildBill u killed it...mahmi does the guy keep giving u mixed signals?if so ask him straightup and move on..better late than never

[Neph19d]

play it coo and play hard to get but not too hard

[Bumpy Knucklez]

..ask him

[mahmi]

Yeah..... how should I ask and be safe?

[Lord_of_da_Gunz]

i like girls that talk too much better than quiet girls.
both isn't that great, but talking too much shows the interest. that's ok i think :)

[gilx141]

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[CAN'T BAN DA SNOWMAN]

man da shit happened 2 me i wuz chilled n shit with dis 1 hoe damn it got fliped around she wuz dominanting me i broke dat shit off