should i or should i not

[westcoastbadboy23]

aight niggaz i ya'll'z advices, there's this girl i've known for about 2 years maybe (WERE NOT GOING OUT OR ANYTHING), in the past i've done so much for her and cared for her more than a friend would do for her, but in the past she did a lot shit to me that made me so upset and aggravated (e.g. taking her out to disneyland and showed no appreciation, left me at a party, and other shit that i'm not going to get into) i got her something for her birthday last year and i always tell her that i care for her. what should i do? i wanted to a give a card but no gift? help me out niggaz i'm lost!!

[W1ld Bill]

just cuz of the fact that i been burned in practically the same situation i would say don't fuck wit it unless she showing signs that she feeling you

but at the same time its not good to try and supress the feelings that you have for her. It'll just eat you up inside.

what i would suggest is that you work up the nerve to talk to the chick and let her know what you feel for her so you can plan your next move accordingly.

This way you don't gotta play that shoulda-woulda-coulda game with yourself and start regretting stuff that you did or didn't do.

but if u been giving her gifts then keep doin it unless you feel like she aint the person that you though/hoped she was

[Bizi]

... talk to her, Ive played the shoulda-woulda-coulda game wiv myself and regretted shi*t most of my life...

[YoungScarz]

I wouldn't fuck with her. If she don't appreciate the things you've done then she prolly doesn't care. If she's those type of girls who play hard to get, ignorin' her would make her show some signs, hopefully.

[bpac]

... talk to her, Ive played the shoulda-woulda-coulda game wiv myself and regretted shi*t most of my life...



aint no lie homie..... get at her for real yo, dimes like nigaz to be upfront, all you needs a hook ....she bite!

[westcoastbadboy23]

i've told her so many times how i feel about her, SOMETIMES she keeps quiet or to me seems like she doesn't care the way i care for her. i don't want to lose her as a friend but like a lot ppl tell "FRIENDS DON'T DO THAT TO EACH".

ANYWAYS KEEP COMING WITH THE ADVICES HER B-DAY IS ON MONDAY

ALSO

I'M IN CALI SHE'S IN GA.

[JoKeR777]

stuck in friend zone.....?!!!! tell her how u feel but dont be to direct about it u feel me like let here know wuz up but dont b strait up about it...n if ur in cali n she is in ga idk how that works cause theres an old sayin dat goes... amor de lejos es amor de pendejos..... so ...its all on u........

[nxt408]

im goin through the same shit with this chick. i really care for her, but im also real good friends wit her. and from all the shit that shes been through, ive been there for her for support. id say dont make a move, cuz if you really care about her, you know that being a friend and being there for her when something happens is more important than a romantic relationship. and if you say that shes disrespecting you, maybe thats her way of saying that she doesnt wanna take the relationship you have farther. good luck with this man.

[Chigga]

Don't bother man. I had the same situation as you. I done so much for this girl but she didnt care either, I spent money, took her out done things that many "norm" friends wouldn't do, and she showed no signs of nothing. After I thought fuck it I'll tell her and straight up she told me she wanted to be friend wit me.

Then a year or two later she told me she liked me, and I thought might aswell try, but lost it within a week. She aint my type no more na mean, swear down she loves fucking peoples minds.

[W1ld Bill]

i don't want to lose her as a friend but like a lot ppl tell "FRIENDS DON'T DO THAT TO EACH".

been there done that. Listen, it'll probably be the hardest thing you ever do but your gonna have to find a way to care about her less, whether it be putting up a wall, finding someone else or whatever.

Take my advice, your making excuses to keep feeling what your feeling and if you continue to do that ur hopes are gonna be up and then sooner or later somethings gonna happen where your gonna end up being absolutely devastated and crushed. And ur gonna start putting the blame on urself and playing the woulda-shoulda-coulda game and start saying how you shoulda gave it up long time ago and how the signs were always there and whatever else.

I'm not saying you can't/shouldn't be her friend but i've learned the hard way that when it comes to love and feelings of the heart, everything has to be mutual. You can't make someone a priority in your life if their not willing to make you one in theirs.

So give her whatever you were plannin to give her and then use that as a benchmark to say that this is it and that its time to let her go. If she really cares about you she'll try to do what she can to get the friendship back to the level that it was at before in which case she'll have to show some kind of feelings for you. If not then she never really cared in the first place.

"If you love something let it go, if it comes back to, you its yours. If it doesn't, it never was."

[gilx141]

I wouldn't fuck with her. If she don't appreciate the things you've done then she prolly doesn't care. If she's those type of girls who play hard to get, ignorin' her would make her show some signs, hopefully.
true life be..bump

[supafli690]

You should try and holla at her, quit being shy. You know you care about her.
But she prolly doesn't look at you like that cuz she be disrespecting you and stuff. So you might as well tell her how you feel but don't be surprised if she isn't feeling the same way about you. I played that game before and been burned. She see's you as her caring lil brother, you already made a wrong turn and wound up in the friendship alley.

There is no turning back from friendship alley....

[SuPreme1]

no need to overexert yourslef for no reason...If she doesnt show appreciation already she probably never will....Especially if she looks good and she knows it.....Dont let her use your kindness for weakness.....if she aint showing signs of being interested dont try so hard to make her..the gestures are nice but not appreciated...

[westcoastbadboy23]

so basically is this going to like a big test to determine whether she cared for me in the first place? o well i guess it is what it is right. i can't let this bitch step over me like that i can't believe and i'm disappointed in myself in the past for forgiving her for all this shit that upsetted me. i guess she doesn't deserve shit especially for all this i've done for her. another question for ya'll niggaz. DO YOU THINK SHE DOES ALL THIS SPECIFICALLY TO ME OR SHE MIGHT DO IT TO OTHER NIGGAZ TO?

[playaplaya915]

depends. if you gave her the world and she just threw it back at you, i say screw her and go get some hookers. jk. naw but i think you need to ask her why she did all that stuff and tell her how it pissed you off. because if you dont tell her bout it, shes just gonna keep doing it and its gonna bite you in the ass.

[bxdiplomat]

man i been in that spot i only one thing to do move one man it not worth it.